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Amber Groomes,Ph.D. (she/her)'s avatar

“What a mess.” Ugh. Thanks for sharing such a moment of human-ness. This story reminds me a bit of how I cried uncontrollably at my uncle’s funeral, which was shortly after I had lost my father. We were so distraught over my dad that we had not had a funeral or anything yet. Going to my uncles funeral completely triggered me, so even though I wasn’t actually that close to the man who had just passed, I was inconsolable about my father 🥴 It felt so wrong to be crying about the wrong person, but I had no control over it. Messy.

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Victoria's avatar

If I was on my own right now, I think I'd make a squeezed-out owwwww-howl-keening sound of empathy-resonance. You've captured the ugly conflicted messiness of emotion...I can't call it grief because it's more than that word...The Human-ness-mess that others who haven't experienced something similar..yet..don't know how to deal with us, or receive our tears or us...

I continue to be awed by your husband and huge hugs hon.

Your ability to decipher this out...well, no words.

I just feel a little less alone in my messy human-ness now. Feeling beyond the obvious.

Thank you for this collaboration contribution and teaming up with Anne. Thanks to Anne BIG hug!

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