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Michael's avatar

Wonderful writing. From the point of view of the other/loved one. As a doctor, you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, and you are strong enough to handle it — every thing in your personal and professional life. Stay strong and fight like hell!

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Kristina Adams Waldorf, MD's avatar

Thank you so much for your support!

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Victoria's avatar

This is a beautiful, very vulnerable gift for readers, @kristina. I'm pulling up my armchair and mug of tea to sit alongside you, side-hug, and just be with you in mutual empathy.

There are no right or wrongs. I'm not offering thoughts because from what I see/hear and have experienced, we each need to figure out how to navigate forward. You've beautifully expressed the messy, painful discomfort of it all. Find me on DMs if you want to chat/share thoughts.

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Kristina Adams Waldorf, MD's avatar

Thank you, Victoria! It is the most messy, painful journey - but this is life. Life is messy and painful and joyful and real. Thank you so much for your comment and offer for DM.

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Joy V.'s avatar

Another beautiful post. When my uncle was dying from cancer and I was on my way to visit him in hospice, I had that realization — how she would be left behind with the grief, the one who had to carry on. The Jason Isbell song “Vampires” touches on this, too. (Have tissue ready if you listen to it…)

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Kristina Adams Waldorf, MD's avatar

I will look for this! Thank you, Joy!

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